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Thursday, October 24, 2013 11:41:13 AM(UTC)
Adrian Peterson learned he had another child just over a month or two ago, per reports. Adrian didn't meet Tyrese Robert Ruffin until the tragic and despicable attack that ended his life short at just two years old.
I know what it's like to find out you have a child after they are several years old.
What I don't understand is why he didn't make greater effort to meet the boy sooner. Sure, training camp, football games, etc and of course, NO ONE ever expects their child to be 'gone' that soon.
Why not fly out there to meet him, spend a few hours with him to start? Or even fly the mother and boy to him. I can't chastise him for not meeting his son sooner because there are too many variables in play and I'm ignorant to the details. I just can't imagine not doing more to at least meet the boy. Heck, who knows, maybe the mother refused his attempts? Again, too many variables an unknowns to fault Adrian here.
What I find absolutely reprehensible is that Adrian left the boy while he was on life support to practice the following day. Maybe the doctor said there's nothing more you can do? Maybe the mother forced him to leave? I don't know, but I just can't imagine any scenario that I'd leave my child's side.
To be fair, Adrian had begun supporting the mother financially when he learned the child was his.
Perhaps I'm overly sensitive to this aspect because when my mother passed away, I wasn't afforded the opportunity to sit at her side while unresponsive and give my final goodbyes directly to her as she was still "on this earth". I don't know. What I do know is everytime I see someone say "poor Adrian" it makes my blood boil.
We all grieve differently and we all cope differently. Even with that understanding, I have lost respect for Adrian Peterson the man.
Thursday, October 24, 2013 11:51:03 AM(UTC)
Unfortunately.. this is the case often with professional athletes.. or at least it is publizied more than the general public.
I just can't imagine not being involved in the life of a child of mine. Just don't understand it.
Seems rampant in our society though.
Thursday, October 24, 2013 1:29:08 PM(UTC)
I understand where you are coming from Kevin. It doesn't make sense to me. I have never walked that road but I would like to think you would have to drag me out of his room.
I suppose people expect more from Purple Jesus (I loath that name and this is the only time I will ever use it.) than he is able to deliver. He is just a man like everyone else.
Thursday, October 24, 2013 4:31:47 PM(UTC)
This is the flip side of our lauding athletes for "playing with a heavy heart" soon after a personal tragedy. We laud their commitment to their team. We laud their fortitude and ability to "put the tragedy aside for a few hours".
Even as we do this, however, we are suggesting to others that the team comes first, that the job comes first.
Personally, I've never thought it particularly admirable unless the athlete suffering the tragedy is without family, in which case its a choice between being alone and being with the team. IMO it is further evidence that we let the job trump the family far too often.
As Lombardi said, it's God, family, and the Green Bay Packers. In that order.
Like Kevin, I find it bothersome and reprehensible that AP left while the kid was still alive. I'm going to say it now: when my mother dies, I'm not going to be worrying a hell of a lot even if my students have an exam the following morning. Even if its their final exam all I'm going to do is PDF the thing to my department chair or the department secretary and leave it to them to distribute it.
And if I don't have the thing written yet (I'm often writing the night before), well, there's a damn good bet I'm not going to write that new final exam either. It's a job. And its an exam. Next to my family, it's almost trivial in importance. And, IMO, it should be. The need for so-called "professionalism" be damned.
To me this example is also yet more evidence of how we let our love of sport and our enjoyment of pro athletes get out of hand. We somehow think -- or, if we don't think, we act as if we believe -- our favorite players are somehow all great people. They probably on average are no worse than the rest of us, but they're also probably on average no better either. All they have is an amazing ability to run or catch or throw or hit people or whatever.
It bugs me when we talk about such-and-so athlete as a "great person," when in fact we know virtually nothing about them other than their avoidance of the police blotter, the output of their PR machine and so-called "sports journalists", and the visible parts of their charitable tax deductions.
I don't know the man. I don't know any of them. They might be good guys, they might be great guys, they might be scumbags. Other than the really egregious examples of scumbags (pre-prison Mike Vick, say, or Ty Cobb), I'm never going to have enough information to know.
Thursday, October 24, 2013 5:12:50 PM(UTC)
Slightly off-topic, too much sympathy is being given to Adrian and not to the man who actually raised the child and believed he was his own until a few months ago and continued to raise him as his own even after discovering the truth.http://www.tmz.com/2013/...n-ty-facebook-son-child/
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