You should add an option regarding cheating in non-monogamous relationships. Cheating is simply breaking the rules of your relationship, whatever those might be.
I often hear guys saying incredulously about a celebrity who's married to a really hot woman, "Why would he cheat on HER? If I had a wife that hot, I'd never cheat on her!"
Don't speak so quickly. I have enough experience to know without a doubt that just because a woman is "hot" does not mean she's a) good in bed; b) a fun lover; c) enjoyable to be around; d) a gracious, affirming mate; or even e) remotely interesting. (Nor, of course, does it mean she isn't.) You have no idea what hell that woman may be putting that man through behind closed doors -- or when the last time they even had sex was.
In her book,
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlessinger says she is appalled at how often female listeners call into her radio show and literally
brag about denying their husbands sex for months, even years, on end . . . and then get sanctimonious and self-righteous when, desperate and lonely, he finds a woman who is actually affirming and
wants to make love to him. And the wives dare to call their husbands assholes!
Not just no . . . hell no. Man or woman, if you have voluntarily abdicated your role as lover, you have no moral ground to judge when your spouse looks for fulfillment elsewhere. Even Martin Luther said, if a man cannot fulfill his duty to his wife, he should allow her to take a lover. All the more, then, if you
choose not to make love to your spouse!